It seem to be more and more news about autistic children being abused or murdered by their own parents. Children should be feeling the most secured in their home with their parents.
There are more and more families are broken, and single mothers, and fathers trying to do everything for their children. Taking care of kids by itself is an important and very hard job. Taking care of an autistic child even harder, especially if the child (like many of them) have multiple medical issues along with autism.
Furthermore, this single parent have to work, so they can pay for therapies and treatment for their children, they have to maintain their house, and take care of other everyday life issues. I can not imagine any human being can do this in a long run alone. There is a point when this single parent needs to reach out and ask for help. Asking for help doesn’t mean that you are weak, or not capable, asking help shows you are a wise, and responsible parent, who looks after their children’s best interest. So, please everyone out there, get help somehow. Make time for yourself, so your life will not be just a caretaker. You must recognize and accommodate your own needs in order to be a good parent to your special need child. It is like when you are on the airplane, and they instruct you to put your Oxygen mask on first, in case the cabin pressure drops, and put your children oxygen mask on second. What this mean? It means if you do not take care of yourself and your own needs, you will not be able to care for anyone else.
I know that I posted a similar post previously, but I will be posting these stories over and over again to remind every one of the seriousness of the matter.
Also, for those of you who are not caretakers of a special need child, but know someone who is, please, I ask you to reach out to those parents and lend a helping hand, or an ear to listen. I know from my life It is such a blessing when someone ask you ” are you OK? do you need any help? Lets have some coffee!”
The story below is very sad, but reading it may help to prevent another tragedy.
September 29, 2010
Another Child with Autism Maimed By Distraught Parent
From Age of Autism
CBS 13 Modesto, CA reports on a brutal stabbing of a child with autism. By his mother, who once served on the Council of Developmental Disabilities. Take a long, hard look at Christmas future, and every other day for that matter, if America doesn’t wake up to the need for treatment, prevention, services and support for families facing the growing crisis of autism. Can we really just accept this? K
MODESTO (CBS13) ― Neighbors of the mother accused of repeatedly stabbing her autistic son say they had only known the suspect as a devoted mother and autism activist who loved her son more than anything.
Anitra Hankins, 36, is under suicide watch in Stanislaus County custody on charges of torturing, tying up and viciously attacking 13-year-old Miles Hankins on Sunday night.
“He had stab wounds all over him,” said next-door neighbor Christopher Tooze. “A big stab wound in the head.”
Acquaintances were at a loss to describe how the incident could have happened. Anitra Hankins was regarded as a great mother who once served on the state Council on Developmental Disabilities.
In her 2004 resignation letter to the board, Anitra stated, “My health and that of my special needs child will not permit me to continue fulfilling my responsibilities as I would prefer.” Read the full story HERE.